an honorable human relationship - that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word "love"
is a process, delicate, violent, often terrifying to both persons involved, a process of refining the truths they can tell to each other
it is important to do this because it breaks down human self-delusion and isolation
it is important to do this because in doing so we do justice to our own complexity
it is important to do this because we can count on so few people to go that hard way with us
adrienne rich
